I make no secret of the fact that I have often dated younger men. Nowadays, I date men who are slightly older than me, slightly younger or my own age but my preference USED TO BE younger men. I’m certain it’s not just about sex either. After all, age is just a number, right? Therein lies the question – How young is too young? At one time, I was getting rather serious with a gentleman that was 9 – 10 years younger than me. We shared things in common and we enjoyed each other’s company but was that an anomaly? Is there a point where it’s just about sex and the two of you really have nothing to talk about? Seriously, what could I possibly have in common with a 28-year-old man? What about pillow-talk? There should be no shaming involved if both consenting adults are only in it for the sex but what about if one of them decides that he/she wants more? Most 20 and 30 somethings don’t have children yet. I know that at this point in my life I want more than a shallow relationship and I don’t want any more children.
I have friends that are younger than me. I try to stay current with the latest trends in music, fashion, television but let’s face it, there are going to be generational differences. I was reading in my horoscope that I have the ability to communicate across generations. I do know that I get along well with children as well as older folks. Does it become the same type of situation that Demi Moore and Mariah Carey are in? Were Nick Cannon and Ashton Kutcher with them because of reasons other than pure love?
I’ll let you in on a writer’s secret, I wrote this a while ago so both Nick and Ashton are gone… But I digress… Is it the personalities of the folks involved in these two examples or is the age difference just too big of a factor to overcome? I submit that there really is no happily ever after and age may have very little to do with it. The best that we can hope for is to trust the universe to find someone that plays well with our demons and loves us unconditionally and hope for the best.