If You’re So Happily Married, Why Are You In My Inbox Dude?

We are appalled by the fact that polygamy is still practiced in some African countries because we have been indoctrinated by the Eurocentric way of thinking.  The simple truth is that many of y’all are in polygamous relationships and don’t even know it. The whole idea of the collective is very Afrocentric but we have been robbed of so much of our history. And we are so brainwashed. We have bought into this winner take all and win at all costs mentality. Even in matters of the heart. The universe is filled with abundance. There is enough for everyone but far too many of us are consumed with Eurocentric self-centeredness.

Thus, my headline… There are far too many men out here who outwardly appear to be in monogamous relationships that are involved with one or more other women than their wives.  This whole concept of the “side chick…”  Recently, her place in popular culture is looked upon with less judgement. It’s even reflected in our television shows. I give you the most famous fictional side chick – “Olivia Pope of Scandal fame.”

So, the takeaway in all this is how to resolve this situation? I have written before about the concept of monogamy being the anomaly rather than the norm. Is it practical considering the disparity among the number of males to females? Are we as humans going to “behave” or should we just wake up and really be aware of what’s really going on?

I say we face reality and try to figure out how to resolve our hang ups. We all have them but adults can work through them. It’s not intended to be a chaotic situation. The concepts of polygamy and polyamory are real “things” that consenting adults practice daily. Some of them even have children. We’re not going to discuss religion right now but I know it plays a role in all of this. We’ve all been indoctrinated by our oppressors’ religious dogma. But that’s for another day.

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My Two Cents on Marriage and Dating, Part IV

Marriage and monogamy or Single and sexually free? Are you going to get married and stay faithful or are you going to get married and do whatever the hell you want to do? Why not just stay single? I can’t help but to think about Tiger Woods… He wanted the ideal, picture perfect family – the wife and kids but he also wanted run the street with all manner of bimbos… Yeah, I may be showing my age but that’s the nicest name I can think of at the moment.  I mean, if you are going to get married, why not put your all into it?

I think the idea of marriage is wonderful. You have a person who has promised to stay with you FOREVER… UNTIL YOU BOTH DIE… That means they will put up with all your bs and you have to put up with all theirs. And truthfully, I don’t think any couple is happy all the time but they are willing to work through their differences and stay committed to one another. There is something rather comforting about having someone there with you if you need a reassuring hug… Is basic companionship one of the most attractive features about getting married?

Last question: Do you need to be madly, passionately in love with someone to marry them?