How far would you be willing to go to spice up your marriage? What do you think the number one reason is that spouses cheat? Lack of excitement in the bedroom…? Only doing it in the bedroom…? Do you think if given the option to get into a “safe cheating environment,” people would take it? Have you ever heard of polyamory? All I’m doing is raising questions folks. Shameless plug in 3, 2, 1… I talk about polyamory in my book – “Confessions of a Reformed Cougar: Younger Isn’t Necessarily Better.” I’m not sure that it would work for many people. I’m only playing devil’s advocate.
Let’s have a grown folks conversation for one minute. You have to know that there are thousands of couples out there where one or both of the spouses are cheating their asses off, right? Are you vaguely familiar with the whole Ashley Madison debacle? An entire website that was set up to facilitate “hook-ups” for married folks…really? We’re just so high-tech now. You have to pay someone to find a hook-up… But I digress… Do you think if you and/or your spouse had permission to cheat via swinging that it would keep them at home?
I’m not passing judgement, I’m just making a statement: If you decide that you are going to stand in front of your friends and family and pledge your undying love to another human being until death do you part, why cheat? Why not just stay single? It goes back to my original question when we started on this journey: Ask yourself why you are in this relationship. There is something to be said for the companionship and comfort of having someone at home but if you know you have commitment issues and you know your spouse will not appreciate sharing you with someone else, why not stay single?